Set Boundaries with Your Mentor

While a great mentorship can result in a transformative connection between two pro- fessionals, there are some nuanced challenges inherent in mentor-mentee relationships. Clear boundaries are key to safeguarding your mental health, privacy and productivity. Here’s how to establish and protect them.

Understand your limits. Reflect on what you’re comfortable discussing about your work and life. For example, you might be open to discussing career goals but not personal relationships.

Communicate your boundaries. Initiate a con- versation with your mentor about boundaries. Ask about their preferences and share yours. For example, you might say, “I prefer not to discuss personal matters deeply but I’m open to profes- sional topics”. Remember: Your relationship will evolve over time. Be open to revisiting and adjusting your boundaries as necessary. Keep communication open to manage expectations and maintain a healthy professional relationship.

Enforce your boundaries in the moment. If a boundary is crossed – even one that wasn’t previously communicated – address it calmly and clearly. You might say, “That’s not an area of my life I really want to get into. It’s not personal, just a boundary I’ve set for myself at work”. Then give them the chance to respond. If they acknowledge your feelings and make an effort to adjust, you can continue the mentorship without revisiting the issue.

• -This tip is adapted from ‘The Importance of Setting Boundaries with Your Mentor’ by Janice Omadeke.