Hi, my name is Cindy and I’m a hopeful romantic. Hopeful because no matter what happens, no matter how many times I’ve had my heart broken in the past, regardless whether I’m single or heartbroken or in a great relationship, I still have this annoyingly incessant belief that real life romance still exists and that love is the most beautiful thing we’ll ever witness.
I love love. I guess that’s why it makes me cringe as much as it does when someone asks me something like “why is a beautiful woman like you still single?”
Above and beyond that being a flawed notion that being beautiful automatically secures companionship and by extension, love (and therefore, the opposite is true too: being ‘ugly’ means you’re doomed to die alone), what do you really say to that?
Uh… “I’m single because the universe doesn’t want me to be happy”?
I know it’s meant as a skewed compliment, but I don’t think the giver of said ‘compliment’ really understands the tizzy it throws the receiver into.
Got me asking myself “Cindy, why are you single?!” in the bath tub at 05h00 on a Monday morning.
Stress.
But, the truth is, I know why I’m single.
Regardless of the circumstances that have lead me to this exact point in my life, I’m also single because, well… I haven’t been wooed yet.
Men are so quick to tell you they’re feeling you but will rarely ever step up to woo you. I want to be wooed.
I want sweet texts and calls “just to hear your voice” and flowers and thoughtful gestures and romance. I want to be wooed. I want to be swept off my feet in a flurry of late night calls and “can I see you, even just for five minutes?” moments. And until someone who’s willing to do all of that comes along, I’m chillin’.
See, the thing is, men will tell you they like you and let that be that. Nope. That doesn’t work with me any more. You like me? My mom likes me too. What are you going to do about it?
Woo me. And don’t half-ass it just because you think that’s what’s going to get you in my…uh…good graces. I can tell the difference.
My favourite kind of wooing is consistency. Someone who shows up. Someone who is present. And genuine. That’s the kind of thing that will make me melt.
I want to be wooed. I want to melt. So until then, I’m very happily single.
And best believe: When I like a man, I’ll woo him right back.
I really like wooing. Almost as much as I like being wooed. Almost.
I like doing sweet things for people I like. I like making people smile. I especially like making the people who make me smile smile right back.
So how about you woo me and I woo you and we woo each other into falling in love?
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